Welcome to the

Step-by-Step Relationship Knowledge System

your go-to source for expert knowledge as you learn to understand exactly how relationships work, so you can create lasting connections using my insightful content.

Via my step-by-step relationship system, developed over 25 years, you will not only gain advice – you will gain relationship knowledge. You will learn to understand yourself better and you will learn exactly how and why you’ve made certain personal or career choices.

And this is what makes me different. Not only am I a relationship and corporate therapist, I am also a teacher and educator – therefore I understand how adults learn. As a result, I’ve packaged my knowledge in an easy-to-understand manner, gleaned from my training, my experiences and my observations so that you can make better choices from a deeper understanding.

Consequently, you will also realise the importance of creating a good foundation, especially if you wish to start a family. This is also because relationships are risky. You will now learn how to reduce this risk, (which will also benefit any children you may wish to have), by choosing partners with your eyes wide open and not shut.

My relationship system also explains how intimacy issues that start very early in childhood, can influence the partners or even the career you choose and indeed, how intimacy issues can affect so many areas of your life, particularly the kind of relationships or partnerships you go on to create.

Most importantly, I impart knowledge that you may not always get from your therapist. My knowledge could therefore add to your therapy or if you are a psychology student or someone requiring information about how people interact, you may find my knowledge valuable.

Why is it important to learn this information?

We consciously or unconsciously take what we’ve absorbed from our families and the schools we attended, into adulthood. And often we don’t realise how childhood experiences mould and create who we become.

Sometimes, we forget or suppress certain or even difficult childhood memories or experiences that are uncomfortable. These experiences don’t have to emanate or proceed from abuse and so on. It could just be that certain negative memories or messages we gleaned in childhood have remained, buried somewhere deep and unaddressed. Not realising that they are still part of our emotional make-up, or self-belief system, we can land up making choices, or we can land up in relationships or jobs, that don’t make us truly happy.

Then we may slowly accept that life won’t get any better, yet still, we press on, hanging on to a few successes. Sometimes feeling shame and sometimes feeling a failure, we land up never really reaching our full potential – not realising, that many of the choices we make are as a direct result of what happened to us in childhood, which can vastly impact our inner belief system and confidence. And we may also land up feeling unworthy and as a result, we may disempower ourselves by making wrong decisions or choices.

However, it is not what was said or what happened in childhood – because this cannot be changed. Instead, what is important, is how we dealt with or how we reacted to what happened, which in turn creates our habits and behaviour. But, if we do not take time to address and understand our emotional responses and where they came from, they can get in the way of our achieving our goals.

Sadly, few realise just how much gets in the way. Many think that they’ve managed to leave the past behind, that it is dead, buried and gone – but in my corporate work especially, my clients have often been astonished when they realise just how much in their daily lives, is actually reflected or mirrored by what happened in their childhood.

However, gaining self-knowledge and a deeper understanding of how you operate or what your knee-jerk reactions are, will help you overcome some of the obstacles that may be unnecessary and getting in the way of achieving your goals.

This is why I put this knowledge together.

From personal relationships to professional partnerships, I also share practical tips and expert perspectives to help you navigate challenges. And I help you undertake a personal journey of self-discovery so you can begin to make better choices that can suit your life goals.

I explain how relationships work, how and why we really choose one another. I explain the reasons for marriage as well as dating, sex, addictions, with many more areas that often affect our lives. I explain the realities of divorce, retirement, death and indeed families and how they can affect our behaviour at work. Also, I have a large section on money, careers, CVs, and business partnerships. I also explain therapy and how it really works.

Although I may not have met you, I hope that for the first time you may gain from my knowledge and that you too may feel understood, seen and heard, albeit from a distance.

Testimonials

Gill: I love the way you use simple language in order to explain complex issues. Thank you.

Paula: You have no idea how much you have helped me and I am now considering training as a therapist.

Jack: You helped me realise that that childhood issues really do create our foundations from which we choose our relationships and careers. Until I understood how this works, I was sceptical.

Robert: You don’t pull your punches and your direct insights was sometimes painful to acknowledge, but I have grown as a result. Thank you.

Sally: Your insights helped me understand my choices better and consequently, I stopped jumping into situations without thinking or understanding why.

Jim: Your step-be-step breakdown of how we develop and then how we use who we are later in life, has been most useful. It put things into perspective for me.

Hilary: I never thought to ask why I struggle in relationships. I just blamed the other person. Now that I have learned to understand how and why we choose our relationships, I now have a deeper understanding of my marriage.

Pam: I never realised why it is important for a couple to get married. I now realise why. Thank you.

Richard: You really helped me understand how my childhood affects my understanding of money and career choices. As a result, I have restructured my business. Thank you.

Beth: Two things: I lost a child years ago and you put in words what I always felt. Thank you. Also, I now understand the process of retirement and what to expect. Thank you.

Cynthia: I now understand my choice of career and it was certainly an eye opener. Wow! Thank you.