Welcome to the
Step-by-Step Relationship Knowledge System:
Your go to source for expert relationship and career knowledge, and much much more, which will provide you with insightful content that can aid your journey of emotional growth and development.
Have you ever wondered why you keep choosing the same kind of partner – or why your career feels like it doesn’t quite fit?
One client said, “I was shocked by how much of my career was influenced by my early childhood. This changed the way I run my business. And it also helped me understand my relationship and partner choices,”
– Richard, Entrepreneur
Indeed, our childhood shapes how we love, lead, trust, and choose. Until we understand these patterns, we stay stuck.
And you are not alone.
Most of us don’t realise that the decisions we make – in love, in business, in life – are deeply shaped by our earliest experiences. What we absorb from childhood silently informs our confidence, our emotional triggers, our patterns… and our choices.
What if you could finally understand the “why” behind your relationships and life decisions? What if you could finally break unhealthy patterns to build lasting connections?
Introducing: The Relationship Knowledge System.
It consists of 138 chapters which are packed full of valuable knowledge, insights and learning
Indeed it is a lifetime’s worth of insights that is way cheaper than therapy. And smarter than dating advice. And it also offers career and business knowledge. It is designed for people who want answers, not just advice.
You will gain knowledge from a relationship and corporate therapist with over 25 years of experience. This system gives you something most therapists don’t – a complete, digestible, step-by-step education in human behaviour, self-awareness, and relational dynamics.
This isn’t just relationship advice. It is relationship knowledge – knowledge that will stay with you for life.
Whether you’re in a relationship, navigating a breakup, parenting, making a career move, or feeling stuck in patterns you don’t understand – this system will help you connect the dots.
What Makes This Different?
Relationships are risky—my system helps reduce this risk. And I teach people to choose partners with their eyes wide open – not shut.
Also,
-This relationship knowledge system was developed by a therapist, educator, and corporate consultant who understands how adults learn – and how childhood experiences affect everything.
-It consists of 138+ digestible chapters, packed with real-world insights, psychological depth, and practical tools.
-It is written in plain language – no jargon – so you can understand complex emotional patterns without getting lost in theory.
-It provides a lifetime access to a resource you’ll return to again and again as your life evolves.
Why is it important to learn this information?
My relationship knowledge system helps you to:
-Understand why you choose certain partners (personal or professional).
-See how early life experiences shape adult trust, intimacy, and communication.
-Identify the emotional foundations needed to build healthy, lasting relationships.
-Reduce relationship risk through emotional clarity and self-awareness.
-It also offers a wide range of topics relevant if not now, then later – as we grow older and what we have to deal with, changes.
This system isn’t just for romantic relationships. It applies to family, friendship, business partnerships, and even workplace dynamics. Because wherever people relate—these patterns show up.
This isn’t a quick fix. It’s an in-depth, structured journey to help you understand how you became who you are, and how to make healthier choices moving forward.
Why Does This Knowledge Matter?
Because your past shapes your present.
But it doesn’t have to shape your future.
And because self-understanding isn’t optional – it’s foundational.
Until you make the unconscious conscious, you will continue to repeat patterns that don’t serve you.
It also provides you with a good foundation of both self-awareness and insights, especially if you wish to have children.
You Get Even More – Much More:
You are also provided with many other topics that may only come in handy later on in life, or that you may not have considered relevant. Yet the information and understanding you will gain, about all the relevant topics that we deal with daily – possibly depression, abuse, domestic violence, gender issues, social media, addictions to parenting, retirement, divorce, death, suicide, money, business partnerships, Cv’s and career issues – might provide you with further tools to make better choices to suit your life goals.
You can check this out before you buy, in the Chapter Outline in “What You’ll Learn”. But before you do, here are a few testimonial of people who have found this vast knowledge useful:
Testimonials
Gill: I love the way you use simple language in order to explain complex issues. Thank you.
Paula: You have no idea how much you have helped me and I am now considering training as a therapist.
Jack: You helped me realise that that childhood issues really do create our foundations from which we choose our relationships and careers. Until I understood how this works, I was sceptical.
Robert: You don’t pull your punches and your direct insights was sometimes painful to acknowledge, but I have grown as a result. Thank you.
Sally: Your insights helped me understand my choices better and consequently, I stopped jumping into situations without thinking or understanding why.
Jim: Your step-be-step breakdown of how we develop and then how we use who we are later in life, has been most useful. It put things into perspective for me.
Hilary: I never thought to ask why I struggle in relationships. I just blamed the other person. Now that I have learned to understand how and why we choose our relationships, I now have a deeper understanding of my marriage.
Pam: I never realised why it is important for a couple to get married. I now realise why. Thank you.
Richard: You really helped me understand how my childhood affects my understanding of money and career choices. As a result, I have restructured my business. Thank you.
Beth: Two things: I lost a child years ago and you put in words what I always felt. Thank you. Also, I now understand the process of retirement and what to expect. Thank you.
Cynthia: I now understand my choice of career and it was certainly an eye opener. Wow! Thank you.
What You'll Will Learn
Section 1: How It All Starts
12 Chapters: How early childhood shapes your emotional life, beliefs, and relationship patterns:
1. Your Relationships Mirror Your Parent's Relationships.
2. How A Parent Connects With A Child Can Have Lasting Effects On A Child's Relationships In Adulthood.
3. Abandonment In Childhood Can Effect Relationships In Adulthood.
4. If I've Been Abandoned There Must Be Something Wrong with Me. If There Is Something Wrong With Me - Then I Need To Be Punished.
5. Your Brain Can Be Your Worst Enemy.
6. We All Have The Same Issues, They're Just Packaged Differently.
7. Roller Coaster Emotions Don't Just Come From Nowhere.
8. Find Out What Happens When We Put Our 'The Knight In Shining Armour' On A Pedestal.
9. Find Out How We Use Karpman's Drama Triangle: The Rescuer, The Punisher, the Victim, In Our Relationships.
10. If You Put Yourself Or Anyone On A Pedestal - You're Heading For A Fall.
11. Rejection And Abandonment In Childhood Can Lead To Extreme Narcissistic Behaviour.
Section 2: How And Why We Choose Our Partners
8 Chapters: Understand the unconscious forces behind attraction and compatibility:
13. Find Out Whether You Have Good Or Bad Internal Parents And How It Can Effect Your Relationship.
14. Learn About The Marital Or Relationship Fit.
15. You Can Easily Sabotage A Relationship By Not Fully Understanding The Unconscious Contract Which Every Couple Sets Up.
16. Learn About The Consequences Of Projecting And Blame Within Relationships.
17. Learn Why Some People Continuously Describe Themselves, Their Partners, Or Their Relationship As Either Good Or Bad.
18. Learn About Regression in Relationships.
19. That 'AHA' Moment When You Realise Your Partner Isn't Perfect.
20. How Relationships Develop.
Section 3: Relationship Wisdom
12 Chapters: Tools to help you in your daily life:
21. You Start As You Mean To Go On.
22. In Order To Attract The Right Relationship, You Need To Be Clear About What You Want.
23. Do You Constantly Compare Yourself To Others?
24. Consider this - If You Answer Questions About Yourself Too Quickly - You May Be In Denial.
25. Learn How To Confront People Constructively - And Develop Self-Confidence At The Same Time.
26. In A Rut? Then Get Off The Symbolic Bridge That Takes You Across The Water And Get Onto The Small-Stepping Stones Instead.
Section 4: The Family
5 Chapters: Learn how your family of origin still influences your adult relationship and career decisions:
33 The Unconscious Family System.
34. The Family: The Family: Did You Know That Every Couple Sets Up A Relationship System Which Can Be Destructive?
35. Buried Secrets In Your Family Can Be Detrimental To Your Health And Your Relationships.
36. Has Sibling Rivalry Affected Your Self-Worth And Has It Made You Feel A Failure?
Section 5: Sigmund Freud
6 Chapters: Explore Freud's insights into human behaviour and development:
38. To Really Understand Relationships - You Will Need To Understand Freud's Oedipus Complex.
39. Do You Really Know Why Some People Have Affairs?
40. Are You Aware Of The Traumatic Impact Separation Has On A Child That Is Sent To Boarding School Just After Experiencing The Oedipus Complex?
41. Some Men Cheat On Their Pregnant Wives. Why?
42. Are You Defended? But What Does This Actually Mean?
43. The Madonna And Whore Complex.
Section 6: Sex and Addictions
16 Chapters: Understand the root causes of destructive habits and their relational impact:
44. What You Probably Didn’t Know About Sexual Abuse.
45. Do You Understand the Root Cause of Addicitions
46. What It Is Like To Have To Live With Someone Who Is An Addict Or Who Has Had Parents With Drug or Alcohol Problems?
47. What Is It About The Sex/Porn Industry That Fascinates So Many People?
48. Do You Fully Understand The Process Of Emotional Abuse Or Violence Between Two People?
49. Are You In A Co-Dependant Relationship? If So Why?
50. Why Do People Self-Destruct?
51. Why Do People Get So Very Angry?
52. Did You Know That Self-Loathing Can Lead To Extreme Forms Of Self-Punishment?
53. Do You Understand The Cycle Of Bully/Abuser Behaviour?
54. Depressed? You May Have More Choices Than Your Realise.
Section 7: Relationship Realities
11 Chapters: Get real about what long-term relationships demand and how to make them thrive:
60. Do You Understand How Power And Control Is Used Within Relationships?
62. Do You Know How To Deal With Emotional Inconsistencies Within Your Relationship?
63. Has Your Partner Become Your Parent?
64. How Does Money Affect Your Relationship?
65. Why Do You Constantly Remind Your Partner Of All Their Mistakes?
66 Learn Why It Is Important To Keep Your Personal Life Personal.
67. The Reality Of Men And Women In Relationships.
68. What Your Partner May Actually Feel About Your Behaviour May Shock You.
69. Some People Are Locked In An Emotional System Hoping That Their Relationships Will Heal Their Childhood Issues. Are You?
70. Is Your Lack Of Confidence Preventing You From Developing A Good Relationship?
71. Is Your Lack Of Confidence Preventing You From Developing A Good Relationship?
Section 8: Marriage
3 Chapters: Discover the psychological and emotional benefits of commitment:
71. Why Do Couples In The West Choose To Get Married?
72. Marriage For Many - Is About Growing Up.
73. Marriage: Do You Know Why Some People Fear Marriage?
Section 9: Dating
9 Chapters: Learn how to date in order to reduce the risk of making bad relationship choices:
74. Daters Have Different Motives. What is Yours?
75. When You Are Dating Women Should Lead And Men Should Follow? But What Does This Really Mean?
76. Feminism Isn't Good For Men.
77. Do You Understand The Grooming Techniques Of Love Bombers?
78. Do You Understand The Importance Of Self-Worth And Setting Boundaries Early On In A Relationship?
79. Pornography Doesn't Support Sex - It Ruins It.
80. It’s Been Ages And He Still Hasn’t Asked Me To Marry Him?
Section 10: Divorce
5 Chapters: Navigate emotional upheaval with clarity and growth and learn about the impact on family life:
82. What Divorce Can Mean For A Couple.
83. You Will Search For Me In Another Person. I Promise.
84. You Made A Mistake. You Made The Wrong Choice. Who Is To Blame?
85. Your Mistakes Might Not Be Mistakes - But Important Life Lessons.
Section 11: Parenting
14 Chapters: Raise emotionally healthy children – while healing yourself and understanding the realities of parenting:
87. Are You Willing To Become What It Takes To Be A Parent?
88. Even If Adoption Takes Place Just After Birth, The Baby Can Still Mourn The Loss Of Their Mothers Right Into Adulthood. Find Out Why.
89. Find Out Why Some Mothers Cannot Bond With Their Babies.
90. Find Out Why The Jealousy Between A Mother And Her Daughter Results In An Unhealed Mother Wound.
91. Some mothers actually regret having children. Why?
92. Do You Know What Might Happen If You Don’t Communicate Your Parenting Expectations To Your Partner?
93. Doing Too Much For Your Child Is A Form of Abuse.
94. Do You Fully Understand The Repercussions Of Becoming A Single Parent Or What It Is Like To Have No Father?
95. Have You Begun To Recognise The Damaging Effects Social Media Can Have On Children?
96. Did you know that self-harm is often rooted in emotionally or physically absent fathers or fathers who are critical and demanding– especially when a child is between 3-6 years of age?
97. Did you know that most gender issues arise in childhood and particularly during the Oedipal Stage? Or it can be due to a negative early experience.
98. People Can Remain Stuck At The Age That They Experienced The Least Amount Of Affection.
99. Can Parenting Be Taught?
Section 12: Endings and Grief
5 Chapters: Learn how to process endings - friends, relationships, partners and so on:
101. A Parent May Have Mixed Feelings When Children Leave Home. Find Out Why.
102. Finding Yourself Unable To Change A Situation (Like A Child Forced To Grow Up With An Abusive Parent) Can Lead To A Form Of Grief.
103. Retirement.
104. Take Heed - This Is What Divorce (Or Separation) Is Mostly About.
Section 13: Death and Bereavement
5 Chapters: Learn how to process pain, loss, and transitions in healthy ways:
106. Of A Child And The Repercussions.
107. When A Child Loses A Parent.
108. Losing A Partner.
109. Find Out How The Body Dies And Why Many Fear Death.
110. Why do some people choose to commit suicide?
Section 14: Therapy
10 Chapters: Learn how childhood experiences shape your work identity and financial decisions:
111. Find Out Why Therapy Can Be A Major Time-Saver.
112. Relationship Therapy: Find Out Why You Should Go To Relationship Therapy Before It’s Too Late.
113. Why Do Couples Need Relationship Therapy? Why Can’t They Just Talk To A Friend Or Family Member?
114. Finding A Therapist, The Therapist, How Weekly Sessions Are Arranged And Paid For, But What If Things Go Wrong?
115. The Process And What You Can Expect From Relationship Therapy.
116. A Brief Outline Of The Therapist’s Role During Therapy : Listening, Observation, Transference, Body Transference, Boundaries, Focus And Challenge.
117. Sex Therapy.
118. The Importance Of Judgement, Compassion and Forgiveness - and Forgiveness In Relationships.
119. Letting Go And How Therapy Sessions Should End.
Section 15: Business, Money And Your Career
18 Chapters: Learn how childhood experiences shape your work identity and financial decisions:
121. The Value Of Group Therapy In Business.
122. When You Go To Work Each Day You Take Who You Are With You.
123. How Your Schooling Can Influence Who You Become In Adulthood.
124. When It Comes To Money – What Do You Think Are You Worth?
125. Understanding Your Body Language.
126. Do You Really Know How To Truly Listen In The Workplace?
127. Are You Aware That Being Late For Appointments Tells People More About You Than You May Realise?
128. Learn More About Your Possible Resistance To Happiness, Success and Wealth.
129. Should You Ever Consider Having A Business Partner?
130. Find Out Why Some People Steal And Some People Commit Fraud.
131. All Sizes Are Fit. My Gym Proves It. And Everyone Should Think About Getting Fitter - As It Will Look Good On Your CV.
132. Find Out Why Your Voice May Be Falling On Deaf Ears.
133. Check Your Promises - And Always Follow Through.
134. What Your Envy Excuse Say About You.
135. Rigidity Or A Lack Of Flexibility Can Destroy A Career.
136. Conflict Resolution.
137. Career Success Can Sit Right Under Your Nose.
138. Why Personal Development Is Critical to Success.
This Is Also For You If:
-You’ve struggled with patterns in love, work, or life – and you want to understand why.
-You want a comprehensive relationship system, not scattered advice.
-You’re in therapy and want to go deeper – or you’re considering therapy and want to be prepared.
-You’re a psychology student, coach, HR professional, or someone who works with people.
-You’re simply ready to understand yourself better – and live with more clarity and purpose.
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- Real-World Wisdom from 25+ Years of Experience
- Less than years of therapy
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